The other night, I couldnât fall asleep. This has not been my issue as of late, but this night I was struggling. So, I said, fine, I will get up. Below are the words that came out that night, starting with this question:
How can we reduce our risk of future distress?
By creating a risk action plan!
When we create a risk action plan, we have steps in place to offset that missing face. As I walk out this widow life, there are moments when I wish I had my husbandâs face here to fight these battles with me. Itâs not fun facing hard/heart things without our loved ones here.
I have learned that taking on more can only be healthy when we have people to balance out part of our daily chores. When we, as couples especially, put a lot on each other, and donât hand off any of it to another beyond our significant other, stress is eminent 100 times if/when a tragedy strikes. The more you prepare for probability risks by managing your daily activities, the less stress you will feel if anything ever happens. I donât want to sound morbid, but my future has a lens that sees into probable future grief. So, the more I take that into account, the more caring I believe it is for the one who is left feeling the real grief after that tragedy possibility strikes.
Maybe you will never experience sudden death as I have, but I will say since this pandemic, it seems more and more hard/heart things are happening to families. This can become such a downer if you donât have some tools and truths in place.
I am here to tell you lifeâs circumstances can steal our joy if we let it. We have the choice to grab life by the horns and ride off into the sunset or to be bucked off and say never again. Is it scary? YES! Is it fun? Not always. Is it worth it to keep fighting? Absolutely. So, what does this have to do with an action plan?
In two weeks, I start radiation. I have called a friend who helped me 19 years ago and Iâm calling on her again. Calling on community brings unity. Letâs say that again: LOVE is calling on community which brings great unity. And so, I love my community enough to call them in when I need the support to walk through this next door with a grin. This is a time to ask for help and trust that everything in the end is going to be okay. I am okay. I will be okay. The process wants to make you believe you will not be okay, but itâs okay to just be okay sometimes. This reminds me of a song as well:
Bethel Music â Youâre Gonna Be Ok
I know it's all you've got to just, be strong
And it's a fight just to keep it together, together
I know you think, that you are too far gone
But hope is never lost
Hope is never lost
Hold on, don't let go
Hold on, don't let go
Just take, one step, closer
Put one foot in front of the other
You'll, get through this
Just follow the light in the darkness
You're gonna be ok
I know your heart is heavy from those nights
Just remember that you're a fighter, a fighter
You never know just what tomorrow holds
And you're stronger than you know
Stronger than you know
Hold on, don't let go
Hold on, don't let go
Just take, one step, closer
Put one foot in front of the other
You'll, get through this
Just follow the light in the darkness
One step, closer
Put one foot in front of the other
You'll, get through this
Just follow the light in the darkness
You're gonna be ok
And when the night, is closing in
Don't give up and don't give in
This won't last, it's not the end, it's not the end
You're gonna be ok
When the night, is closing in
Don't give up and don't give in
This won't last, it's not the end, it's not the end
You're gonna be ok
So, to all my menders who are going through their own storms, let me remind you:
When the night, is closing in
Don't give up and don't give in
This won't last, it's not the end, it's not the end
You're gonna be ok.
Here is one more song to leave you on a high note.
A thankful heart is the beautiful eternal exchange from our hearts back to the Father. We praise our way through. I found a tool that makes moves here and there. I like that kind of energy work, where our choice here has an effect on whatâs happening there. Never forget we are not powerless on this earth. We are sons and daughters of the King and He loves when we rejoice in the midst of our trails. This brings me to a passage, so letâs end with that here today:
Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because Godâs love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from Godâs wrath through him! For if, while we were Godâs enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life! Not only is this so, but we also boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.
-Romans 5:1-11 NIV
Grace. Hope. Love. Reconciliation. Access.
These are just a few of the benefits to having a true relationship with the Father. I know I feel more encourage by this reminder here today. He truly is the lifter of our heads and a lifter of our hearts. Stay faithful people. People are watching. He is for us. Walking with us. Crying with us. Cheering for us. So, who can be against us, for we truly have angel armies fighting for us. He loves us. He loves us. He loves us. He loves you. He loves me. Can we hold on to our faith in midst of hard/heart things? YES!!
YES WE CAN!!
YES WE CAN!!
YES WE CAN!!
Until next time,
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